YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN’T BROKEN. YOUR PATTERNS ARE.
Discover exactly where your patterns get stuck and learn how to rewire them so you can finally move from reacting to relating.
Take the Relational Assessment Compass (It’s Free!)
Discover your conflict patterns, protective strategies, and exactly where your relationship gets stuck in less than 10 minutes.
You'll receive a personalized breakdown of:
How you move in conflict (and why)
Your partner's patterns and triggers
Specific strategies for repair that actually work for YOUR dynamic
Not sure where to start?
YOU’RE SUCCESSFUL AT EVERYTHING EXCEPT THIS.
You've built careers. Maybe a family. You're capable, driven, and from the outside, you look like you have it together. And honestly? Your relationship isn't bad. You love each other. You're committed. But behind closed doors, you're having the same circular arguments. One of you shuts down, the other escalates. You go to bed angry more often than you'd like to admit.
Maybe you watched your parents' marriage crumble and swore you'd do it differently. Maybe you've been divorced before and refuse to repeat the same patterns. Or maybe you just know, deep in your bones, that “decent" isn't good enough when extraordinary is possible.
You both know there's something more available, and you're not accessing it.
Here's what's really happening:
There are things you're not saying, needs you're not voicing, and resentments building under the surface of “we're fine."
You're both operating from old programming: adaptive strategies you learned in childhood that worked then but are sabotaging your relationship now. You're triggering each other's wounds without even knowing it.
And instead of getting curious about the pattern, you're managing around it, hoping it'll resolve itself and blaming each other for the pain.
The truth?
You're not broken, and your relationship isn't failing. You just never learned how to do this part. Nobody taught you how to stay connected under stress, how to repair after a rupture, or how to lead together instead of competing for control.
Here's what's possible:
A relationship that doesn't just survive, it THRIVES. It becomes a space where you can both say the hard thing and still feel safe. Where both of you show up as full adults, not wounded children managing each other's reactions. Where conflict deepens intimacy instead of creating distance. Where you build something together that’s actually sustainable.
That's what Together in Practice creates. But only if you're ready to stop pretending and start practicing.
What People Are Saying
Stephanie M.
“I'd been working with Emily, and when she mentioned the option of doing couples work with her and Kelly, I knew instantly that they would be the perfect fit. They created a program perfectly tailored to our needs. We are only 5 weeks in, and our relationship has already transformed in ways I didn't know were possible. If you are searching for the best couples coaches, look no further!"
Spencer S.
"I cannot sing Kelly and Emily’s praises enough! The sessions have been tremendous in helping us understand ourselves, how we interact with others, and especially how we communicate and love one another. Kelly and Emily have been able to give us a “play book” on how to better love one another based on our personal needs and predispositions, which has resulted in more self-confidence, awareness, and relational strength. I knew coaching would be beneficial, but I had no idea it would have the amount of impact it has!"
MEET YOUR GUIDES
EMILY GOUGH & KELLY GARDNER
We’re a married couple, and our 35+ years of combined experience means you benefit from diverse, and proven approaches, from Relational Life Therapy and non-violent communication to somatic and subconscious work that helps regulate your nervous system and deepen connection.
We believe that real love requires real honesty, and we bring deep and extensive expertise, having been doing this work hands-on with hundreds of people, not to mention within our own relationship. We know what works. And we know what people do to avoid the work.
We also know firsthand what it's like to be high-achieving, deeply committed, and still find yourself stuck in patterns that make you question everything. Let’s change that.
Relationship coach, host of the Room to Grow™ Podcast, and co-author of You Grow Me. Emily works with women and couples to build emotional safety, deepen intimacy, and stop abandoning themselves in relationship.
Coach, mentor, and guide for men who want to lead with clarity, integrity, and emotional presence. Kelly helps men (and their partners) break out of defensive patterns and step into collaborative partnership.
Here's what you need to know about working with us:
We don't stay neutral. If one of you is being defensive, we'll call it. If the other is pursuing too hard, we'll name it. We'll side with the relationship over either partner's ego, and sometimes that means confronting you directly about what you're doing that's not working.
When you work with us, you get dual-coach guidance. You get a proven methodology. You get a community of couples doing the same hard, sacred work. And you get two people who will love you enough to tell you the truth - even when it's uncomfortable.
Want to hear us in action?
Check out our podcast Love in Practice™, where we talk about our own relationship. Messy parts included.
TWO WAYS WE CAN HELP YOU:
A 9-week relational rewiring for couples who refuse to settle for “fine" and are ready to do the actual work to move from reacting to relating.
This isn't therapy. It's not a weekend workshop where you feel good for three days and then slip back into old patterns.
TOGETHER IN PRACTICE
Together in Practice is a complete rewiring of how you show up for each other, so you can finally stop reacting and start relating.
LIMITED SPOTS FOR PRIVATE 2:2 COUPLES COACHING WITH EMILY & KELLY
For couples who want the deep transformation of Together in Practice along with the undivided attention of both of us guiding you every step of the way.
This isn't group coaching. This is both of us working exclusively with you as a couple, customizing tools, addressing your specific patterns in real-time, and giving you the kind of high-touch support that accelerates breakthroughs.
This is for you if: You want the fastest, deepest transformation possible. You value privacy and personalized attention. You're ready to invest significantly in your relationship.
Investment: Due to the intensive nature of 2:2 private work, this offering is premium and limited to 2-3 couples at a time. Book a connection call to discuss availability and pricing.
WANT A MORE INTIMATE EXPERIENCE?
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR COUPLES WHO WANT EXTRAORDINARY, NOT JUST FINE.
Let's be clear about who should sign up and who shouldn't.
THIS IS IDEAL FOR YOU IF:
Your relationship is decent, maybe even good…but you know there's another level available
You've seen what happens when couples settle or avoid the hard conversations, and you refuse to be that story
You grew up watching a marriage fall apart, or you've been divorced yourself, and you're determined to break the cycle
You're willing to say the things you've been avoiding: the needs, the resentments, the fears
You're willing to look at YOUR part in the pattern (not just your partner's)
You can handle direct feedback without falling apart or getting defensive
You want practical tools, not just insight (insight without action changes nothing)
You're committed to showing up, even on the weeks when it feels hard
You're building a life together and refuse to let your relationship plateau
THIS IS *NOT* FOR YOU IF:
You think your relationship is "fine" and don't see room for growth
You're waiting for your partner to change first
You want someone to stay neutral and never challenge you directly
You're looking for a quick fix or a magic technique
You're not willing to examine your own adaptive strategies and triggers
You think this is about learning to communicate better (it's about becoming a different kind of partner)
You're hoping we'll convince your partner to see things your way
Here's the deal: We're not going to coddle you. We're not going to stay neutral when one of you is clearly in your adaptive child. We're not going to let you hide behind “that's just how I am" or “we're actually doing pretty well."
If you're ready to go from good to extraordinary, from managing to thriving, welcome. This is your space.
HERE’S WHAT CHANGES WHEN YOU STOP THE PATTERN
Forget the checklist for a second. Here's what your life actually looks like:
It's Tuesday night. One of you is stressed about work. In the old pattern, this would spiral: someone snaps, someone withdraws, you go to bed in separate emotional zip codes. But now? You recognize the trigger before it takes over. You pause. You say: “I'm activated right now and I don't want to take it out on you." The other person doesn't take it personally. You co-regulate instead of co-escalate. Twenty minutes later, you're back to being a team.
It's Saturday morning. You're talking about money, or parenting, or whose family to visit for the holidays, one of those conversations that used to turn into a war. But this time, instead of fighting to win or protecting your position, you're actually curious about your partner's perspective. You can disagree without one of you shutting down. You find a solution that honors both of you. And somehow, you feel closer because of it.
It's 10pm on a random weeknight. You look at your partner and realize: I actually really like you. Not just love. LIKE. You're not roommates managing logistics. You're lovers, teammates, co-creators of a life that feels alive.
Here's what becomes true:
✓ Conflict doesn't mean the relationship is in danger, it means you're growing
✓ You can say the hard thing without destroying trust
✓ Repair happens quickly because you both know how
✓ You feel emotionally safe enough to be fully yourself
✓ You lead together instead of fighting for control
✓ Intimacy isn't something you “work on." It's what naturally happens when you stop defending
This isn't fantasy. This is what happens when two people decide to stop performing and start practicing.
You can’t think your way into a new relationship. You have to practice your way into one.
This program will teach you how to recognize your triggers before they hijack you, interrupt the pattern in real-time, repair when you mess up (because you will), and build a shared language for connection that doesn't disappear under stress.
This is not talk therapy. This is not another book you'll read and forget. This is a complete relational rewiring for couples who are done talking about change and ready to embody it.
THE REVEAL → REWIRE → RELATE METHOD
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REVEAL THE ROOT PATTERNS
You can only change what you can see. We’re going to trace your relational patterns back to their origins: your family systems, attachment styles, adaptive strategies you used to survive your childhood, and the emotional “soil” you grew in.
We're going to excavate those roots together. And you're going to see, maybe for the first time, why you do what you do. Why your partner does what they do. And how the two of you have been locked in a dance neither of you designed.
You must grow down before you grow up.
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REWIRE THE EMOTIONAL & NERVOUS SYSTEM RESPONSE
Insight is not enough. You can understand your pattern perfectly and still repeat it the next time you're triggered.
This phase is about building new relational muscle. We're going to teach you how to:
-Recognize activation before it becomes a reaction
-Stay grounded when your nervous system wants to fight, flee, or freeze
-Interrupt the loop in real-time
-Co-regulate with your partner instead of co-escalating
-Move from your adaptive child to your wise adult, even in the heat of conflict
This is where resilience is built. Not in the easy moments. In the moments where you want to defend, justify, shut down, or attack, and you choose something different instead.
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RELATE IN A NEW WAY
Now we integrate. You've seen the roots. You've built new capacity. Now it's time to practice a completely different way of being together.
You'll develop:
-Communication that's clear, direct, and kind (no more passive-aggression or mind-reading)
-Repair skills that actually work (not just "I'm sorry," but real accountability and amends)
-Shared leadership in your relationship (so you're not competing for control or over-functioning/under-functioning)
-Intimacy that's rooted in safety, curiosity, and presence
When you grow together, your canopy expands. It becomes a place of safety, shade & strength for both of you, and everyone who depends on you.
WHAT’S INCLUDED
A full relational blueprint for each partner including your behavior patterns, protective strategies, triggers, and personalized conflict + repair strategies.
...so you can finally understand WHY you react the way you do, stop blaming yourself (or each other), and have a personalized roadmap that shows you exactly where your relationship gets stuck, and how to get UNstuck.
→ This becomes your map for the 9 weeks.
RELATIONAL COMPASS ASSESSMENT (Value $500)
Each module includes video training, workbook, reflection practices, and action steps.
...so you can move through the program at your own pace, integrate the work into your real life (not just therapy hour), and have a step-by-step system you can return to whenever old patterns try to creep back in.
Reveal → Rewire → Relate Methodology (Value: $1,200)
Three rotating call formats:
Masculine cohort call with Kelly
Feminine cohort call with Emily
Couples community call with both
...so you can practice the skills in real-time with expert guidance, get coached through your actual stuck points (not just theory), witness other couples navigating the same challenges, and never feel alone in the work. This is where breakthrough happens.
Weekly Coaching Calls with Live Practice (Value: $4,000)
Private community for integration questions, weekly wins, accountability, and witnessing in masculine/feminine pods.
...so you can get support between sessions when you need it most, celebrate the small shifts that lead to big change, stay accountable when motivation dips, and build relationships with other couples who actually GET what you're going through.
Couples Support Community (Value: $1,200)
Ongoing access to curated and regularly updated tools and resources.
...so you can return to the framework for years to come—during transitions, tough seasons, or when you need a refresher. This isn't a 9-week band-aid; it's a lifetime toolkit that grows with your relationship.
Forever Access to Resource Library (Value: $500)
Repair Templates & Communication Tools (Value: $1,000)
Plug-and-play assets you'll use for life: trigger scripts, conflict frameworks, repair sequences, emotional regulation tools, nervous system co-regulation practices.
...so you never have to wonder "what do I say right now?" in the heat of the moment. You'll have proven language, exact scripts, and practical tools you can grab when things get hard—because they will, and now you'll know exactly what to do.
Your Investment:
⚡ FAST-ACTION BONUS ALERT: The first 5 couples who pay in full also receive a private 30-minute calibration session with Kelly or Emily (valued at $500). Only 2 spots remaining.
CHOOSE YOUR PAYMENT OPTION
PAY IN FULL
$3,400
$3000
Save $400 + Receive All Bonuses Below
✓ All 9 weeks of the program
✓ All coaching calls & community access
✓ All resources & lifetime toolkit
✓ PLUS: 4 exclusive bonuses (valued at $2,300)
Four monthly payments
$850
$3,400 total
You’ll receive:
✓ All 9 weeks of the program
✓ All coaching calls & community access
✓ All resources & lifetime toolkit
Same transformation. Flexible payment.
Not sure which option is right for you?
Book a connection call and we’ll talk through it.
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Book a connection call. We'll talk through where you are and whether this is the right time.
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If you’re interested in more info on working with us privately, book a connection call with us. These spots are highly coveted and we have extremely limited spots because of the time and energy investment we give.
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Yes. Contact us within 48 hours of enrollment and we'll adjust your payment and apply the discount.
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If the two of you are both putting in the work and you don’t feel significantly closer and clearer in your communication by Week 4, we’ll continue working with you until you do, at no extra cost.
We begin on Friday, February 20th.
WHEN YOU PAY IN FULL, YOU ALSO RECEIVE THESE 4 BONUSES:
BONUS 1 : 30-Day Direct Messaging Support (Value: $1,000)
Private channel access to Kelly & Emily for real-time questions and guidance during your first month.
Why this matters: The first 30 days are when questions come up, when you're integrating new tools into real-life moments, and when having direct access to us can make the difference between a breakthrough and a backslide. This is like having us in your pocket during the most critical phase.
BONUS 2 : Conflict Pattern Audit (Value: $500)
Detailed breakdown of your recurring loops and personalized intervention strategies.
Why this matters: Most couples fight about the content (dishes, money, in-laws) without seeing the pattern underneath. We'll map out exactly what's happening in your specific dynamic—where it breaks down, who does what, and the precise intervention points. This is your personalized playbook for interrupting the cycle.
BONUS 3: Post-Program Growth Map (Value: $300)
A custom relational roadmap designed to keep your momentum strong after the 9 weeks.
Why this matters: Transformation doesn't stop at week 9. We'll create a personalized plan for your next phase—what to focus on, what practices to maintain, where to deepen—so you don't lose momentum once the program ends. Think of it as your relational GPS for the year ahead.
BONUS 4: 30-Minute Private Calibration Session (Value: $500)
Private call with Kelly or Emily to accelerate your progress from day one.
FAST-ACTION BONUS: First 5 couples who pay in full receive this session. After 5 couples enroll, this bonus is removed.
Why this matters: Before you even start week 1, we'll meet with you privately to understand your specific situation, preview what's coming, and calibrate the program to your needs. You'll enter the work with clarity, direction, and momentum—while other couples are still figuring out where to start.
PAY-IN-FULL BONUSES
Total Bonus Value: $2,300
Your total advantage when you pay in full: $2,700 ($400 savings + $2,300 in bonuses)
Why we offer these bonuses for paying in full:
When you commit fully upfront, it signals to us, and to yourself, that you're all in. These bonuses allow us to invest more deeply in your transformation from day one, giving you maximum support exactly when you need it most. We've seen that couples who start strong finish stronger, and these bonuses ensure you hit the ground running.
Not ready to commit to the full program yet? That's okay. Take our free Relational Compass Assessment and get instant clarity on what's really happening in your relationship.
You'll discover your specific conflict patterns, what triggers you both, and get personalized insight into where you're stuck—no strings attached.
After you take it, you'll understand exactly why this program works and whether it's right for you.
STILL DECIDING? START HERE.
YOU ALREADY KNOW IF THIS IS FOR YOU.
You felt something when you read this. Either resistance or recognition. “This is too confrontational" or “holy shit, they see us."
If you're still here, you're probably one of two types of couples:
Type 1: You're ready. You know your current approach isn't working. You're willing to be uncomfortable. You want the truth more than you want to be right.
Type 2: You're scared. You're not sure if your relationship can handle this level of honesty. You're worried about what you might have to face.
Here's what we know: The couples who break the patterns are the ones who refuse to settle, and are willing to do the work scared.
You don't have to be in crisis. You don't have to have it all figured out. You don't have to be "good at relationships" yet. You just have to want more than “fine" and be willing to show up, tell the truth, and practice something different.
The strongest couples we work with don't come to us because their relationship is broken. They come because they know what's at stake. They've seen what happens when people avoid the hard conversations. They've watched patterns repeat across generations. And they're saying: Not us. Not this time.
If that's you, join us, or book a connection call to see if this is the right fit. If it is, we start the work.
Your relationship doesn't have to stay stuck. But it also won't change by itself.
FAQs
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The new cohort begins February 20th, 2026 with limited spots to maintain depth, safety, and personalized support.
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Absolutely. Take the free Relational Compass Assessment to get clarity on your patterns first. Many couples find this helps them decide if the program is the right fit.
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This program addresses the root system of your relational patterns, not the symptoms. You’ll learn how your nervous systems interact, why conflict repeats, and how to break the loop permanently through tools, structure, and practice. Like anything else in life, you will get out of it what you put in. Show up and participate, and transformation becomes inevitable.
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Together in Practice is not talk therapy. It’s a relational nervous system rewiring process delivered through experiential practice, separate group coaching spaces for both men and women in addition to couples group coaching, and a proven method that teaches couples how to connect, not just what to talk about. This is practical, embodied, and skill-driven.
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That’s completely normal. Skepticism can actually be helpful because it keeps you curious and engaged. The program is designed to create quick wins so both partners experience tangible results, building trust in the process. You can also book a call with us to talk things over and make sure it’s a good fit for you.
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Expect: 60 minutes for the weekly call, 30–60 minutes for practice + check-ins, plus optional deeper work. The process is designed to enhance your relationship, not overload your schedule.
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Sometimes, but in a good way. Conflict isn’t the problem; unskilled conflict is. You’ll learn to process and repair in a healthy, connected way. Conflict becomes an opportunity into deeper intimacy, and the more you work through things together with the powerful and compassionate skills you learn, the closer you and your partner will become.
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All calls are recorded. You’ll still gain immense value through the curriculum, templates + tools, community support, progress tracking, and messaging access (bonus). Live attendance is ideal and recommended but not required.
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You’ll never be asked to overshare, you get depth without forced vulnerability. Private masculine + feminine cohort calls provide personal support as needed. And you might be surprised at how much you relate to the other couples and actually might feel the pull to open up. There’s something deeply powerful that happens in these groups when you realize you and your partner aren’t alone in facing struggles or various issues.
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Most couples spend far more money, not to mention years of their lives stuck in patterns, therapy loops, or silent disconnection. In 9 weeks, you get a relational blueprint, proven methodology, two expert coaches, personal support, and lifelong skills. The value far exceeds the investment and can change your entire life path as a couple in the best ways.
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There is an optional 2:2 upgrade for private coaching with Emily and Kelly is offered only on connection calls to ensure fit and capacity. Spots are extremely limited due to the high-touch nature of the personal support from both of us. For details, book a call with us here.
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You leave with repair tools, communication frameworks, personalized strategies, and a Growth Map outlining exactly how to continue building your relationship forward. Many couples also choose to continue in the Love in Practice community, as you will have the opportunity to continue attending group coaching calls as alumni and be part of the much-needed ecosystem of couples supporting couples.